I Just Found Out My Child Has Cancer, What Should I Do?

My Doctor Finder
September 08, 2022

Cancer is one of the worst known diseases. Finding out a child has this disease is a crushing blow to parents, other family members, and friends. It creates an instant crisis within the family that will overwhelm everyone with sadness, grief, anxiety, fear, and loads of frightening information about cancer. 

In this article, we will delve into what you can do if you’re a parent who has a child suffering from it as well as a bit of information on the most common types of cancer child patients have.


What Should I Do If My Child Has Cancer?

As parents, it gives us great pain to see our children in pain. But it is much more gut wrenching for us to see them having cancer. If it were possible, we would want to have that disease instead of them just to see them free of pain.

It is common to feel shock, fear, denial, anger, anxiety, guilt, sadness, and depression but you must stay strong for your child. In this article, we will look at what you can do during these sad times.


1. Prioritize Your Child’s Treatment

It’s easy to get overwhelmed by powerful emotions, but you must remain calm and stable enough to focus on your child’s treatment. It is okay to cry and feel sadness, but you have to be strong and to stand by your little warrior as they go through it.

If you have a job, keep on working to keep your finances going to support their treatment. If you have challenges, you may contact different charities, NGOs, and foundations for help.

It is also a good idea to keep the mood light, especially around your child. Keeping them happy can ease their fears and help in their treatments, giving them a sense of hope to keep fighting.


2. Lean On Your Family for Support

Having a child with cancer is a heavy matter, and one you shouldn’t face alone. Reach out to your spouse, parents, relatives, other family members, and friends for guidance and emotional support.

This will help ease your emotional and mental burdens, so you can give more attention to your little one. You have allies in this fight, and reaching out will strengthen your resolve.


3. Find Strength in Faith

As Filipinos, one of the first things we do during crises is praying. If you ever find yourself in this situation, take some time to pray and meditate to help ease your mind and find inner strength.

You can also seek help from a priest, imam, pastor, minister, or any spiritual leader in your religion. These people can help you by listening, providing spiritual guidance that may help reduce stress and anxiety, and answer many of your questions. 

For religious and secular folks alike, you may also consult a mental health professional to help you process these emotions and thoughts with scientifically backed coping tools.  


4. Talk To Parents Who Are in The Same Situation

Some people who can help us are those who can relate with us, and vice versa. Speak to fellow parents who are in the same situation as you. These people can guide you on what you can do, how to find strength, and the different how’s in this matter. Join different support groups, live and online, for advice and emotional help. 

Many of these people are more experienced in dealing with this so you can get help, advice, inspiration, and motivation from them.


5. Take Care of Your Child, and Be Ready to Answer Their Questions

From the moment of diagnosis, it is important that you stay with your child. Please attend to all their needs by coming with them on their treatments and checkups. You must also make sure they get the right nutrition. 

They will also have many questions about their current condition. You must be prepared to answer them. To do that, you must listen and ask your doctor for important details and information about the disease. Also, the information and advice you will get from other parents like you and from religious clergy may help answer some of their questions.


6. Don’t Forget To Take Care of Your Health

As the parent, your child will look to you for strength in their battles against cancer. For that, you must remain healthy and strong. The situation is challenging but it would be more challenging if your health fails too because it may affect their treatment and recovery.

Make sure you eat healthy, sleep adequately, and if you can, exercise for at least 15 minutes. 


7. Keep Your Sense of Humor

Having a child with cancer would be a sad moment for everyone in the family. But you must always keep a sense of humor to ease emotional and mental stresses. 

Also, cracking a few jokes or telling funny stories will keep your ill child smiling through their battles.  

Laughter may not be the best medicine for all diseases but it sure helps ease the heart, mind, and soul.


What Are the Most Common Cancer Children Patients Face?

Cancer cases among children are uncommon but can still happen. Among the most common of them include the following:

  • Lymphoma
  • Leukemia
  • Brain Cancer
  • Osteosarcoma (bone cancer

Fortunately, child cancer patients react better to their treatments so hope is not lost dear parents.





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