7 Warning Signs of Violence Against Women

My Doctor Finder
July 21, 2017

Violence can result in physical, mental, sexual, reproductive health, and other health problems. The warning signs of violence against women may go unnoticed not just to the victim, but also to the victim's family and friends. Familiarize oneself with the following warning signs for it may help or even save a life of an abused woman. [1]

  1. The man suggests that he is the victim and acts depressed
    Abusers may tend to show that he is the one being victimized by you. This typically happens to women who are known to be too controlling. The abuser has excellent skills when it comes to making up excuses that the people surrounding both of them will eventually believe what the abuser is saying.

  2. The man will definetely show domination by acting that he owns the woman
    Abusive individuals need to feel that they are in charge when it comes to the relationship. Decisions will be made by the man, and he will insist on telling you what you should or should not do. Your abuser may treat you like a servant, child, or his possession. [2]

  3. The man lies to make himself look good or exaggerates his good qualities
    Abusers have the tendency to use a variety of intimidation tactics. It is designed to scare you so that you'll submit yourself to him again. Some of the tactics may involve threatening looks, smashing of things, destroying properties, and resorting to weapons. They can also be good at creating excuses for the inexcusable. Your abusive partner may eventually shift the abuse and responsibilities to you. He will make it your fault rather than his.

  4. The man acts like he is superior and of more value than others in his home
    An abuser has the ability to make you feel worthless. He can make your feel bad about yourself that you'll end up staying in the relationship for the realization that no one may accept you in the future. Your abuser may use insults, name calling, and shaming to further put you down and make you feel powerless.

  5. The woman is nervous about talking when the man is present in the area
    When the woman is in a family gathering or even an event, the abuser often times accompany her to prevent her from dropping charges. Abusers often use threats such as hurting or killing you. He may also threaten to commit suicide, files the charges on you or even report you to be as the abuser.

  6. The woman always tries to cover her bruises
    The person being abused often have frequent injuries, with the excuse of it as "accidents". They frequently miss work or social events without any valid explanation. They also dress in clothing designed to hide bruises and scars such as long sleeves and shawls.

  7. The woman seems sad, lonely, withdrawn and is afraid
    People who are being abused may have very low self esteem, even if they used to be very confident with themselves around people. They also show major personality changes from being an outdoor person to becoming an introvert.


According to the 2013 National Demographic and Health Survey, 1 in 5 Filipino women has experienced physical violence since age 15. Only 30% of women sought assistance after being physically or sexually abused. The Philippine National Police reported that rape ranked 3rd among all violence against women cases from 2004 to 2012. [3]

When you feel that you are starting to get abused by your partner, there are health care authorities that may save you from drowning in the lake of extreme violence. Visit the nearest psychiatrist that can be found in your area:

Remember that abusers are very good when it comes manipulating their victims. The victims will need all the help they can receive, but how would they get help if they are being put into isolation by their abusers? So, as a stranger, by picking up on the warning signs and offering support, you can be a big help to them by saving them from their abusive situation and start their healing process.


[1] "Warning Signs of Abuse" by Stop Violence Against Women
[2] "Domestic Violence and Abuse" by
[3] 2013 National Demographic and Health Survey